Posted in activism

Acti-vice-sm

I saw a person who shamed another for what they posted on their social media. They claimed that they were supposed to act a certain way and were offended when they didn’t comply. They demanded from that person what they thought was the right thing to do. They defenestrated them from the metaphorical window of the universe because it wasn’t what they had asked for. They forced their values and beliefs onto the person on the other side of the screen.

If the image of the person formed in your mind was that of an ignorant person stuck in their beliefs, well, you’re kind of right. Yet, another category of people falling into this category, are the ones who believe that being an activist means they get to project their views and their ways on another fellow human being. They are the ones who SHAME other users of the internet for their way of using it, for not talking out about the issues that they’re concerned about. They are the ones who believe that one must go through a feed of another person’s suffering, even if it affects their mental health.

To all those people who think it’s okay, ‘You have become the very thing you swore to destroy’, pardon my Star Wars reference. Forcing people to talk about an issue that requires the most diligent and sensitive handling, serves no purpose at all. Shaming someone just because they do not talk about an issue does NOT mean they are against it. It does NOT mean that it is okay to attack someone. You are not the Judge of what a person is. You are not God. The only thing you have the right to ‘control’ is your own self. It is of the utmost importance to use that wisely. Treat people with kindness.

Posted in PRIDE2020

MYTH GRENADES

RAINBOW EDITION-10

The blue-green world we have is filled with more myths than it is with sea-turtles. Most of them are borne of ignorance and then passed on, without a clear mind to check on the ensuing smoke. A lot of them have been based on a subject that is not spoken about nearly enough, something that’s been kept in the shadows for way too long, and not well understood, the lgbtq+ community.

·     LGBTQ+ People Can Be Identified by Certain Mannerisms, Clothing or Physical Characteristics

There is no specific format a member sticks to, and their behaviour, and their gender expression differs from person to person. There is no single way to gauge if one is queer or not, lest if they say so themselves.

·     There is a Distinct LGBTQ+ Lifestyle

A specific magazine, “Guide to Queer” exists, which has a detailed description of what schedules the member should follow, what to eat, and what job arenas they should stick to. If you haven’t guessed already, I’m just kidding. LGBTQ+ members are everywhere and lead lives according their wishes, present in all regions of the world, and all lines of work.

·     Only Lesbians, Gays & Bisexuals are Attracted to People of Their Own Sex

This is one of the most common misconceptions people bear in their minds. Most adults have been attracted to members of their gender at least once in their lifetimes. This, however does not mean that they are queer, and does not affect their sexuality in any way.

·     In a Same-Sex Relationship, One Partner Usually Plays the Masculine Role & the Other One Plays the Feminine Role

In a M/M or F/F relationship, it is not uncommon that both the partners play only the role they already are, their gender. It does not follow the male-female dichotomy.

·     LGBTQ+ People Do Not Make Good Parents

The sexual orientation of the parents does not influence the sexuality of the child in any way. Other than being scared of being judged by their peers for having queer parents, there are no signs of emotional stress caused by this. Society’s judgement is of course, in no way their fault.

·     LGBTQ+ People Are Predominantly Young, White, & Non-Religious (WESTERN TRADITION)

This is a myth that exists in major parts of Asia and Europe, blaming the western influences on their children. “It’s only occurring in recent trends”. How false can that statement be? More people are standing up and are asking for what they deserve, causing the rise of known queer people.

It really is unfair that so many people, closeted and confused, have to listen to the tirade of uneducated people holding positions of power. We shouldn’t lose hope though, for the world is changing, moving forward, one step at a time.

 “Two steps forward, one step back is still one step forward.” – Rosa Diaz, Brooklyn Nine-Nine

If you see someone struggling to come to terms with their sexuality or gender, simply ask them to reach out to India’s helpline number: 1800111015. If you want to talk, please feel free to reach out. I would love to talk.

This has been great. All ten of these articles, and I don’t know if I’ve helped someone, but I really really hope I did. Even if you have any questions regarding lgbtq+, hit me up. I’d love to explain things out. Also, pride 2020 is almost over, so for the last time this year, happy pride!

Lots and lots of love, T. ❤

Posted in PRIDE2020

INDIGO VISIONS

RAINBOW EDITION -9

Being lgbtq brings with it a lot of judgement, unfair treatment, and harassment in some level or the other. Such strenuous situations carries with it, holding in hand, a whole lot of mental health problems.

The NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illnesses US) claims:

  • LGB adults are more than twice as likely as heterosexual adults to experience a mental health condition
  • LGBTQ people are at a higher risk than the general population for suicidal thoughts and suicide attempts
  • High school students who identify as lesbian, gay, or bisexual are almost five times as likely to attempt suicide compared to their heterosexual peers
  • 48% of all transgender adults report that they have considered suicide in the past 12 months, compared to 4% of the overall US population

People in the lgbtq community suffering from mental illnesses face a double-stigma, having to dance with two lamps in hand, both their gender/sexual identities and the whisper-aura around mental illnesses.

The only way out of this vicious cycle is to get support and help, at the earliest possible. Counselling can also help in self-acceptance of the lgbtq+ member. The inner turmoil of not fully understanding what they are can be eased with the help of therapists, baring themselves to someone else like standing in front of a mirror, and understanding what the planes of your face mean.

If a person cannot afford to appear for a session, whatever be the reason, there are other ways to the golden path of self-love. Various coming out videos have been posted by various lgbtq+ members explaining their journey and how they overcame it. There are many other resources available online if one wants to reach out, but still remain anonymous.

We are on the rise with both matters, as society is starting to function a little more open-minded. If someone does reach out to you as a friend, support them and tell them that you’re there and that you believe in them. If the person reading this is part of this beautiful community as well, know this, YOU ARE VALID! You’re as real as they get, and things fall into place with time. Don’t be ashamed to be yourself. Embrace the fire burning in you. It will all be okay.

If you see someone struggling to come to terms with their sexuality or gender, simply ask them to reach out to India’s helpline number: 1800111015. Please feel free to reach out if you want to. However, I’m attaching the link of a site where you can talk if you want to, anonymously and seek out help.

https://www.7cups.com/19690746

Much Love, T.

Posted in PRIDE2020

CURVY FONTS

RAINBOW EDITION-8

If anything affects young minds more than movies, and the media, then it’s books. Young-adult books have taken a turn for the better. Many of them are now very inclusive of races and lgbtq+ characters. There has been an increase in the occurrence of queer protagonists.

“One must always be careful of books,” said Tessa, “and what is inside them, for words have the power to change us.”


― Cassandra Clare, Clockwork Angel

In the popular series, The Mortal Instruments, Cassandra Clare beautifully takes you through the journey of “Alexander Lightwood”, a closeted teen who deals with his sexuality. With the support of his sister, Isabelle Lightwood, and friend, Jace Herondale, support which he first rejects, he grows as a character. She eloquently describes his innate desire to make his father proud, while not losing the person he is, in the process. She brings in the problems of having a relationship with a same-sex person, and highlights the difficulties of raising a child with two fathers, in another book of hers, “The Red Scrolls Of Magic”.

ALEXANDER GIDEON LIGHTWOOD

Rick Riordan, known for his famous Percy Jackson series, went a step further with his book, “Magnus Chase”, which includes “Alex Fierro”, a genderfluid person as a main character in the book. His depiction of genderfluidity is very accurate, leaving out the magic parts. It is one of the only children/teen book that represents a trans person, without either dehumanizing it or getting the facts wrong.

ALEX FIERRO

In many books that I will not name, homosexuality is described as nothing more than a slur, a stain to be wiped off the clean slate of blacks and whites. Fortunately, more and more books are representing the grey areas, and not just sticking to heteronormativity.

If you see someone struggling to come to terms with their sexuality or gender, simply ask them to reach out to India’s helpline number: 1800111015. Please feel free to send me a message if you want to talk.

Love, T.

P.S. This is my favourite blog post, because it has Cassie in it.

Posted in PRIDE2020

HUES OF PRIDE PARADES

RAINBOW EDITION – 7

Pride parades are celebrations of the love and social and self-acceptance, achievements, legal rights, and pride of the lgbtq+ community. It is one of the most colourful and bright events that ever flock the streets with their luminescence. Pride parades are also used as demonstrations for legal rights. Every year it welcomes the newest members of the community, sprinkling on them pixie dust.

It all started one fateful morning on the 28th of June. Stonewall Inn was a gay bar that catered to the lesser privileged parts of the lgbtq+ community. The first ever pride event took place that day, as lgbtq+ members flooded the area. It was the small match that lit up the whole forest like it was made of wicker.

Fifty years later, 2019 saw the world’s biggest pride parade in history : STONEWALL 50 – WORLDPRIDE NYC 2019 produced by Heritage of Pride. In Manhattan alone, five million people assembled to walk the streets in a peaceful protest.

Pride parades are safe spaces that make everyone feel at home. In a pride parade, everyone is family. Every one painted in the colours they want to be doused in, holding up flags rippling in the high electric surge of the air. There is no space for judgements, with no barriers. It’s somewhere you needn’t be afraid of being yourself, and can accept yourself for whoever you are, a rainbow-make up wearing gay, or flannel wearing bisexual, or denim-jacket wearing lesbian. You, nothing more, nothing less.

Though a lot of parades start off peaceful, they face backlash by homophobes, and transphobes.

If you see someone struggling to come to terms with their sexuality or gender, simply ask them to reach out to India’s helpline number: 1800111015. Feel free to reach out if you want to talk.

Much Love, T.

Posted in PRIDE2020

ETHEREAL TUNES

RAINBOW EDITION-6

Pop culture has seen many faces in all its many years, but the last few have been painted from shades of violet to red. The growth lgbtq+ has witnessed with regards to the music industry, is tremendous.  Among the many artists, there are two queens who shook the world, and I’m not talking about Freddie Mercury.

Hayley Kiyoko is called ‘Lesbian Jesus’, in praise of her outspokenness about her sexuality. Further, her songs are awe-inspiring with catchy beats. Her song, ‘Girls like Girls’ normalizes lesbianism. Her music is different from the other mainstream songs unlike “I kissed a girl” by Katy Perry, and “Girls” by Rita Ora featuring Bebe Rexha, Charli XCX and Cardi B. She says on this matter, “A song like this just fuels the male gaze while marginalizing the idea of women loving women.”

HAYLEY KIYOKO

Troye Sivan is personally my favourite artist ever. His music, his lyrics and his voice all complement perfectly the words of his heartstrings. He was initially a youtuber, who climbed the ladder to solo music production. His songs touch topics like the problems faced by the whole community. He is a man with a cause. He showed the world the importance of self-love in his song, “Bloom”, where he bares his soul to the world to see. His person covered in feathers, paint and glitter, he bloomed. He has spoken through his music to the majority of the community, as he broke all barriers to keep flapping his golden-white wings, as the halo above his head sparkled on the sharp angles of his face.

TROYE SIVAN

Listening to music that one can relate to really helps their mental state, assuring them they’re not alone. They have a whole group of lovely people, all ready to embrace them. 

If you see someone struggling to come to terms with their sexuality or gender, simply ask them to reach out to India’s helpline number: 1800111015. Please feel free to reach out if you want to. Treat people with kindness.

Lots of love, T.

Posted in PRIDE2020

THE UN-NARNIA CLOSET

RAINBOW EDITION- 5

Closeted and in the closet are adjectives for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, LGBT people who have not disclosed their sexual orientation or gender identity and aspects thereof, including sexual identity and sexual behaviour.

“It felt like it was my dirty little secret. It felt like I had chains wrapped around me and I couldn’t say anything, and I couldn’t be who I wanted to be. I felt so alone and trapped in who I was… For people to be so supportive about it, it has been amazing.”

– TOM DALEY

Closeting started in the early 20th century, as a metaphor for grasping the history and social dynamic of gay life. It describes a person being in the closet as unhappy and living with a mask clouding their features.

Coming out is a term used to refer to the act of opening up as lgbtq+. The journey of coming out is a very personal and powerful path of self-acceptance and would be softened with the petals of love. For many individuals, coming out is one of the hardest phases of their lives. It’s an important part of every lgbtq+ member’s life.

There’s another term used today called the ‘glass closet’, mainly concerning to public figures, used when one is out to their close family and friends, but not to the open public, but is also not involved in a lavender-marriage, or having a beard (publicly dating a person of the opposite sex). A lavender marriage is a male–female mixed marriage, undertaken as a marriage of convenience to conceal the socially stigmatised sexual orientation of one or both partners. Such a person is said to be ‘closeted’.

It is never okay to ‘out’ someone without their permission, and it is only the individual’s choice to come out. The specifics of when, where and how, if ever, they come out, should lie in their hands only.

If you see someone struggling to come to terms with their sexuality or gender, simply ask them to reach out to India’s helpline number: 1800111015. Otherwise, feel free to reach out. I’m only one mail away. That was a failed Charlie Puth reference.

Don’t forget to treat people with kindness.

Lots of Love, T.

Posted in 30 day challenge!, CRIME

WOODEN

DAY-30

Everyday she trained,
Day and night,
Her trainer, showed no mercy,
Lap after lap she ran. ‘Am I ready yet’, She panted, fuming,
She’d run kilo meters at a stretch,
Run and exercised. ‘Patience is a virtue’, He said, smiling,
She walked away huffing,
Unsatisfied as can get.
Days passed, one bright day,
He handed her a wooden sword,
The girl who only wanted to fight,
Shone as bright as the sun.
Months passed by,
Her upside-down frown turning back up,
Can I use a sword now,
She asked, gazing at the metal.
Her momentary distraction enough,
He bent and attacker her legs,
She fell ungracefully,
Appalled she missed his move. ‘You’re not ready’, He said, looking down at her,
Sprawled down on the floor, ‘Get up and learn.’ A deep grunt as she stormed off,
He smirked as she limped,
He continued attacking,
The sack of grains.
Months turned to two years,
She stood tall and muscled,
The frown still etched,
As she parried his blows.
He struck down on her,
She blocked his move,
Feigning to move left,
She struck the blade out of his hand.
She clapped a hand on her mouth,
Shock reverberating through them,
A slow smile spread on his face,
He took the wooden sword from her. ‘It is time’, he told her, ‘Come let us go,
Your first blade,
What will you name him?’ 

Posted in PRIDE2020

THE RENAISSANCE QUILTBAGS

RAINBOW EDITION – 4

Queer, Questioning, Intersex, Lesbian, Transgender, Bisexual, Asexual, Gay.

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Queerness has been expressed in the renaissance period of cultural development as not more than strokes of paint spilling on the stark blankness of canvas. Homosexuality was a punishable offense back in that era, and was something that was shrouded behind the gauge of curtains.

Great thinkers and painters, their repressed homosexuality being the flair that sets them apart from the rest of the artists. They left behind a huge impact as they waltzed into the doors of heaven.

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THE BARD

William Shakespeare, had dedicated his first book of bard’s sonnets to a certain Mr. WH, who many scholars believe to be the “fair youth” referenced in the iambic parameter. His work is also said to have showcased homosexuality, such as his pining in Sonnet 20 for the “master mistress of my passion.” As for Mr. WH, there have been many discussions and speculations at to who he might be, a young earl perhaps, or a commoner he might have known through publishing.

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Queen Christina of Sweden

Queen Christina of Sweden, King Gustav-II’s only heir was thought to be a boy when they were born, and were given the training of that of a prince. They were in a relationship with a woman named Ebba Sparre, for many years. They alternated between men’s shirts and shoes, and décolleté dresses so risqué that they drew a rebuke from the Pope. They were described as having a very masculine appearance and manly mannerisms. Her gender was greatly debated, and scholars believe that she might have been inter-sex.

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Prado’s Mona Lisa painted by Salai, daVinci’s reputed lover

Leonardo da Vinci’s sexuality has been a matter of great analysis, right from the 16th century, and later rekindled by Sigmund Freud. He mainly expressed his streak through his art and drawings. He’s believed to have been in a relationship with two of his pupils,  Salaì and Melzi. Much has been said about his androgyny in his works, Saint John the Baptist and Bacchus.

If you see someone struggling to come to terms with their sexuality or gender, simply ask them to reach out to India’s helpline number: 1800111015. Otherwise feel free to reach out if you want to talk.

Much Love, T.

Posted in 30 day challenge!, abstract, life, musings

DEAD PLANTS

DAY-29

He wrote about dead plants,
About rotten hearts,
And their rotten love.
He wrote about the criminals,
The poor and victims,
And the pain in their hearts.
He wrote about felled soldiers,
About misguided lovers,
And their foiled attempts at life.

He wrote about autumn,
The unfinished paintings,
He wrote about the forgotten..